Relationship Advice

have just broken up from a relationship. The main problem was my insucurity and jealousy. This is a reoccuring theme (in varing degrees) for me throughout my life. The man I have just parted from (although not perfect) was idea. Although I know I can’t get him back the future seems unbearable unless I find a way of dealing with my problem. I don’t know where to go, who to talk to, or what to read. Any help appreciated. Thank you.

Because usually there isn’t jealousy — without reason — without insecurity. But I think you see this. It will be a long road though. My wife and I are still working through our own insecurities that have in the past manifested themselves into some form of jealousy. If you’re open with yourself and with future significant others, a lot of the work has already been done.

Do people really ever overcome their jealousy though? I wrote to the group a week or so ago about my problems with my husband being intensley jealous and then him getting a phone call from some female saying I was having an affair at work.

I am still living on a knife edge with him going from his usual loving happy self to obvious bottled up anger and contempt mistrust etc. It can happena t any time and I never know which husband he is from one moment to the next, I am quite often miserable and my self esteem and confidence has been demolished.

I have questioned everything I do and come up less sure than ever, am I really a slut and havent realised but he can see it in there somewhere so he doesnt trust me.

I love sex and always have I often initiate it and enjoy it immensley as we are very compatible and his drive matches my own, but now I begin to feel that I should have seemed less keen as he might think that I am this hot with just anyone I fancy once out of his sight.

I ahve questioned the good friendship that I have with a male at work which is entirely platonic and come out feeling that maybe somehow all this is my fault after all.

Will he ever get over this, I have spent hours reassuring him but he still has these intense fits of personality change. i must say that his jealousy has been a problem for about a year since I went out to work after being a housewife, and this phone call has just made things all the worse.

I feel I want to leave for a break it is tearing me apart.