Relationship Advice

but I have to add that people who put other people down usually don’t think they are 100% wonderful and that’s why they need their kick by putting down others. I have been getting a lot of crap from people when I was younger (I have never been skinny) and used to deal with depression pretty bad. I used to think :"Wait.. I’ll show.. I’ll make something out of myself and then you’ll see".. sort of like the song "How do you like me now"… now that I’m a successful in the Daycare and Karaoke business and I’m more at ease with my weight and actually like my looks.. I kinda find that I don’t really care about the people who used to make fun of me. They would probably be great friends nowadays..(most of them anyway, some people never grow up), cause kids can be so hurtful but when people get older they change (what would the world be like if they didn’t)… and if I were to tell them how much they hurt me back then, they would probably react like the people at Maurie Povich (I was a kid for crying out loud… I would never do anything like that nowadays)… so I gather, the person who wrote the nasty e-mail was probably some Teenager who is in an identity crisis right now and needed to assure himself that he’s a good looking hunk. No biggy. But I did want him to know that it’s not alright to do what he did, that’s why I responded… I’m sure if he does it to me, he does it with someone else and that someone else might just need his remarks to push her to the edge. Heck, he might not even realize how much it can hurt when you’re a Teen and you hear somehting like that… I do…. and I remember mostly cause of my diary.. a lot of self-inflicted pain back then, but mainly because society wasn’t very nice to me for being fat… nowadays I read the diary (I started putting that on my site too) and I shake my head… guys liked me back then and I would write about them and how guys would come up to me and ask me for the time, or start a conversation and I would write in my diary "He’s soo nice, too bad he doesn’t like me." roflmao nowadays.. some twisted thinking back then, isn’t it…lol… but.. that’s because of all the teasing I got and the self-esteem got lower and lower until I almost was to the point to commit suicide…at that point I really don’t know what happened, but it started going up from there and have been ever since. I guess if I was an alcoholic I would say I hit rock bottom..lol

i agree with you totally.. altho I am not a bigger girl most of my friends are, and they have the most WONDERFUL men i have ever seen. This world is full of all different shapes, sizes, colors, etc… If we were all the same could you ever imagine how boring this world would be? I think that people that put posts up that are negative about others really are NOT sure of themselves… my advice to them is grab a mirror.. altho you may think that you are 100% wonderful and there is nothing wrong with you.. you would be surprised at what the world thought of you!!!! Also dont just grab a mirror grab a piece of paper and mark down all your strong points and weak points… then you will see that you too have something to work ok! Monika I checked out your site… you are a VERY beautiful woman (and no guys im not hitting on her.. im secure with myself to be able to tell another woman how beautiful she is). And your site looks good…. I loved the tests and have forwarded them to my friends… so be sure that you will be getting lots of hits for that section of your site *wink*… Lets try to stay friendly with each other…. rudeness in my eyes is just a form of immaturity and that there is something wrong within you!

Well, I was 3 months shy of 18 and I have to say the only thing I regret is that I gave it to the guy I did and not to another..lol. I think it was the right age and I don’t think I should’ve waited nor done it any sooner. I had a wonderful sexual experience. I married the first guy I had sex with 2 months later and until he started cheating on me, I thought we had a pretty decent sex-life… his cheating was an ego thing, not a lack of sex (even though right before I mustered enough courage to get a divorce.. at that point I kind of quit enjoying sex for a while, partly due to depression I think). Anyway, I still have to say that I loved my first time. The only negative experience I’ve had with sex is that some guys try to blame their own failure on the girl.. only by then I had enough compliments that I just plain out dumped the guy when he told me I wasn’t any good, instead of getting depressed…lol. Told him to buy a dead fish, for they don’t move… In Love and Light,

Hi I’m in a relationship with a woman that I really like and seek advice. She is a very sweet woman and seems to like me. When we first met she was very "touchy" and playful toward me. When we were in front of her friends she hardly touched me though. When we were alone later at a bar she was again very touchy. When I saw her the other day she didn’t lay a hand on me in her own home. Tonight I’m going with her and some friends to a bar. I already told this woman I want to be friends to start out and nothing more. She agreed that being friends was the best start. After the second date though she said she was very attracted to me and wanted to sleep with me, yet she doesn’t want a boyfriend.

What helped with my diabetic friend was a cock ring; sorry if I am getting too graphic here. Diabetes is, to put it mildly, a pretty stinking disease; one of the things it affects are nerves. Diabetics frequently get numbness, or burning in their legs and feet; this is known as peripheral neuropathy. The diabetes can also affect the nerves feeding blood flow to the penis; it can be described as a case where the spirit is willing but the flesh is definitely weak. Many men can achieve partial erection or can maintain an erection for a short period of time only. Anything that "holds" the blood flow in the penis will help maintain an erection. A cock ring slips over the penis and is tightened at the base of the shaft; it helps to keep the blood from flowing backwards out of the shaft. Viagra works (in some, but not all men) by encouraging extra blood flow to the penis. There are some contraindications if he is on certain heart medications; plus the stuff is pretty expensive . Some men use a vacuum pump and cock ring combination; the pump is used to draw blood into the penis and the ring holds it in place. Other techniques include injections into the penis (some men can do this, some can’t), and some surgical interventions that involve implanting a plastic rod or pump into the underside of the penis. Tell your friend to make an appointment with a urologist; this is a VERY common problem, not only in diabetic men but those with hypertension. It’s also important to remember that the man can still climax even with just a partial erection. Scott was able to enjoy sex but without the cock ring, vaginal sex was a little difficult as it was hard to enter half erect.